The deep inner workings of a beggar's mind

Honesty – The Best Policy

This blog is kind of close to my heart, because it’s something I’ve been dealing with lately. I don’t know how many times I’ve lied to people since I’ve returned from Brasil. I don’t know how many times I’ve failed to keep up with my devotionals and Bible reading lately. I’m not sure how many times I’ve given into temptation the past few weeks (No, this isn’t a beat-myself-up session). I do know this though: (1) I’m NOT perfect, and (2) I’m not alone. Keep in mind this blog is as much for me as for anyone else reading it.

“Honesty is the best policy.” I know this phrase has been used so much, it has become quite cliché, but it still rings true. I know that we all have a pretty good idea of what honesty is, but for clarification purposes, according to, honesty is: (1) the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness. (2) truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness. (3) freedom from deceit or fraud. I think we’ve all got it.

Honesty is one of the most important things to have in our life. Not only did Christ command us to be honest in several places, but being honest also saves us huge amounts of trouble. I mean, think about it. How many times have lies we’ve told come back to bite us? Sure lying may get us out of immediate trouble, but we have to keep lying to cover up the first lie. It’s a never-ending maelstrom. Once we start lying, it’s hard to stop.

One of the chief reasons people lie is that they are concerned about the consequences they know will follow for telling the truth. It goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden. God asked if they ate from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, and immediately, they passed the buck. “The woman You gave me handed me the fruit.” See it? Let’s try again. “The serpent told me it was OK.” Again, Eve passed the buck. They didn’t want to fess up to their sin because they knew the consequences, yet in God’s Word, He tells us “if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Why wouldn’t we want that?

Fear cripples us. I wrote a blog that dealt with that topic a little while ago. Anyway, it keeps us from being honest not only with God, but with one another as well. “Well, if this person knew I struggled with porn, they’d look at me differently.” “Oh, I can’t let people know I have a problem with lust. They won’t feel comfortable around me anymore.” “Oh man, if I told them I have a drug problem, they’ll call me a hypocrite.” How many times have we felt this way or had thoughts like these? What will it take to be honest with each other?

We seem to get comfortable behind our little masks. We put on the “tough guy/big girl act,” or the “nothing’s wrong show.” How many times when people ask us how we’re doing and we say “I’m doing fine, and you?” “I’m good.””OK. Have a nice day.” I don’t know about you , but personally, I’m sick of hearing that. We think “Oh, no one wants to know about this,” or “No one cares that I’m struggling with that,” or “People already have enough problems without having to add mine to their list.” Those are nothing but bold-faced lies!! The first step to healing is confession, if not to another person, at least to God. The Bible also tells us to “Bear one another’s burdens,” and how are we supposed to do that if we don’t know what they are?

Now while these things are true, when a friend confesses something to you that they’ve been dealing with, that doesn’t give you the right to judge them, nor does it give you the right to think “I’ve never done anything that bad.” CONFESSION SHOULD NOT TURN INTO COMPARISON!! That means call sin sin, but don’t elevate yourself by grinding them into the dirt. Do your best to help them through it. Pray with them, offer to call them up and check on them, meet with them if possible, but don’t look down on them, call them a horrible sinner, and turn your back. Someone is the most vulnerable when they confess their deepest, darkest, ugliest junk to you. Keep that in mind. Also, before you even think about judging them, be sure to “get the log out of your own eye so you can see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s.”

I’m sick of all the lies. I’m sick of all the fake smiles. I long for honesty in the body of Christ. How are we supposed to stand effectively if we try to muddle along in our own strength, keeping all our problems to ourselves? I’m not saying that every Christian in the world should stand up in front of national television or their peers and scream every dirty little secret that they ever had (though I’m not sure it would hurt). I’m just saying I long for a generation who will stand up among their brothers and sisters in Christ, without fear of rejection, without pretense, and say, “This is what’s going on, and can you help me through it?” How often do we prefer to go to Alcoholics Anonymous than to confessing to a fellow believer or to God? Something’s wrong here. There’s nothing wrong with those groups, because they do a lot to help those people in need, but shouldn’t the body of Christ be the key “support group” for believers? We’re all in this together, after all, and “No temptation has seized us except that which is common to man.” We’re all members of one body, let’s start acting like it.

– Brian


I know I promised journal entries from Brasil. They’re coming, don’t worry, I’m just not sure when. God bless and see ya later!!


Currently listening: Simply Nothing by Shawn McDonald

4 responses

  1. can i get an amen
    no seriously
    you amaze me dude with your level of maturity and love for Christ
    I know your struggling right now
    but I know your love for Christ is real
    and in the end that will help you
    and you know that.

    March 24, 2008 at 20:53

  2. Sennit, you’ve helped me more than you know…I praise God that I’ve gotten to know you as well as I have and that we had that little convo of ours today. In fact, that “little convo” was one of the main incentives for this particular blog. Once again, I say thanks for listening and for supporting me bro…I don’t know where I’d be without friends like you. Love ya, brother!!

    March 25, 2008 at 00:26

  3. no problem, the feeling is mutual.
    i love the good conversations that have been happening lately.
    they’ve really been on’es of brokeness and healing,
    and most importantly love.
    love for others,
    love for healing,
    and a love for God

    March 27, 2008 at 08:53

  4. eowynfair

    Awesome. I completely agree. As a woman I think we often fear showing ourselves, the deep and emotional part of us, because we don’t fully know what’s there and are afraid to let others see it. I know often times I’m reluctant to tell even my closest Christian friends when I’m going through something, for fear they won’t understand. BUt lately I’ve been able to be more open, and I’ve found a lot of good Christian friends lately, and that is a wonderful thing. :)

    January 21, 2009 at 02:45

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